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Cat called as I was crossing the street going the opposite way as him. I told him “That’s not cool!” And he just laughed and said something else I couldn’t hear. I said “Don’t do that!” But he wasn’t paying attention to me beyond that point.
Just watched a black Camaro full of guys catcall a woman walking down the street. She ignored them but she looked very annoyed.
I was leaving Biggby on Grand River near Crunchy’s and heading off to work. Two men were hanging out on the sidewalk and decided to cat call and “compliment” me on my legs and dress – one of them even said “you shouldn’t hide yourself with clothes.” Needless to say, I gave them both a disgusted look and, uncharacteristically, the bird. (Pent up frustration from this happening over and over resulted in me flipping off 2 strangers).
They then called me an “ungrateful bitch” and yelled about how they were “just being nice” and told me to go “fuck myself,” etc. I got in my car and drove to work wondering if I should have worn a different dress. I should not have thoughts like that. I should not feel compelled to flip off strangers. I should just not have to deal with that period. Not okay, dudes.
I was dating this guy that made me feel loved but he was just using me. I set boundaries first thing because I am pretty young (16) and I want to wait. I thought he respected that but he didn’t. He pushed me to do things that I said no to. He physically hit me and made me feel worthless. He tried to rape me multiple times. I don’t know what I would have done if one of my close friends didn’t walk into the room the last time he tried. I’ve never been so scared.
I was walking down State Street on the University of Michigan campus. A white blazer with two occupants and a dog shouted out racist and sexist slurs at me and a group of friends. About 10 minutes later I saw the same car coming back in the opposite direction and the male passenger again called out racist and sexist slurs. They had to stop at the red light at State and Williams so I ran up to the car passenger door and asked “What did you say to me?” He says, “I have never seen you before in my life.” I said, “I know your car from all the identifying stickers you have stuck on the back trunk door. You just drove down the street back and forth yelling out at me and my friends. I’m watching you.” The light changed and they drove off. He leaned his head out and called “B***!” to display his fundamental cowardice one more time. He had dark blonde curly hair and looked about 16 but maybe he was older. The driver was a female in her late teens, I think, with long straight blonde hair.
I was walking back to my car from a girl’s night out, and we passed two older men (about 20-30 years older). As we passed, the men whistled and asked us where we were headed. After we responded shortly with “home,” one guy replied with “give me 10 minutes, it will be the best sex you’ve ever had.” I was so disgusted I just kept walking (at a faster pace).
I stopped at Speedway to fill my gas tank. As I was walking in to pay, I noticed a young woman walking just a step behind me, also headed for the door. I paused to hold the door open for her and as she walked in, a man parked in a spot right in front of the door noticed her, attempted to get her attention by saying “Hey! Heeeeeyyyyyy!” When that was unsuccessful, he began barking and panting at her from his car window. SERIOUSLY?!?!?!?! Disgusting.
She had a nervous expression on her face as she entered. I gave the guy an angry, disapproving look, paid for my gas, then found a way to dilly dally at the pump long enough to ensure that this woman walked out of that store and left the gas station without any further or escalated harassment to deal with. I’m not sure what exactly I would have done if things had taken an uglier turn, but I couldn’t just drive away knowing what was going on. She did end up leaving without things getting worse, so that was a plus.
Its just completely ridiculous and SHAMEFUL that stopping for gas equates to harassment. But that’s reality for that girl at the gas station and for millions of others like her just trying to move through public spaces and live their lives.
I had four men in a car outside the party store between Michigan Ave and Grand River (at the fork) whistle at me and tell me to come over to their car… When I flipped them off they told me I was “rude.” I proceeded to say that sexual harassment is rude, & real men don’t whistle at women to make themselves feel powerful. One of them said “I’m bout to get up out this car & show you what real men do.” I went inside the store & told the manager, but the car was gone before he could do anything.